Fostering Healthy Friendships with Our Women Counterparts
Unfortunately, women have had a long history of rivalry, starting from tribal times.
Since we live in a society that promotes self-interest, we naturally operate competitively. We can, at times, project our hurts and fears, our unhealed parts of ourselves, onto one another. Instead of supporting each other, we watch others’ behavior closely for perceived mistakes, and up come the walls! On a subconscious level, we keep ourselves safe from potential hurt.
We can also project our pain, judgment, or lack of love onto the precious women in our social circle. Why we do that is often related to our repressed desires. Truth be told, and though painful, it relieves ourselves of unmet needs. So, she becomes a target.
Let’s say you see a woman going after what she wants regarding her job, relationships, and money. Instinctively you may get this kickback, “Who does she think she is?” Rather than saying, “Yes!! So proud of you.”
Deep down, we are operating on a subconscious level believing that we are less than and undeserving. Not worthy. Perhaps in our childhood, we saw pompous behavior from our father or a bad boyfriend that takes and takes both in bed and in everyday life. Thus, seeing a woman that’s not afraid to ask and go for what she wants will bring to the surface “stuff” that needs to be healed and released.
In those moments, we do not have another woman’s best interest at heart, and that’s not being a good friend.
The Keys to a Healthy and Intimate Friendship
Real friendships require deep respect and love. A “seat at the table” if you will – to eat, drink and be merry with one another. This love can only come from deep self-love, for thyself. Learning to adore and to love our feminine selves is where one must start. You will only love others the way, and at the level you love yourself. You can only be kind, forgiving, and compassionate to others as you care for yourself. It’s that LOVE – the unconditional love, the stay high when others go low kind of love. The love that rises above the low vibration of drama, gossip, and isolation.
We don’t all know or have yet figured out how to be incredible friends. We didn’t all have fantastic role models, but that’s OK. We can dig deep and learn. Creating close and intimate friendships is something we can all develop. To be great friends, we need to be accepting and approachable. Love your girls, love your tribe, love your people, and love thyself DEEPLY. That’s is the most beautiful legacy you can leave for one another.
Dare To Love
